A balanced approach: Compassion.
I recently did a mantra meditation with davidji, centred around awakening compassion. It made me reflect and inspired my latest mantra post on my Socials, I am compassionate. The question is - is it about being compassionate towards others or yourself?
I don’t know about you but a lot of the times we can be incredibly compassionate and understanding towards others, and particularly when family, friends or colleagues are going through a difficult time. Without a doubt, there is significant value in being compassionate, yet we don’t seem to give the same amount of compassion, understanding and kindness to ourselves - do you experience this as well?
Realising the value of self-compassion.
I’ve been working with 100s of clients for nearly a decade and when compassion shows for a client during a session, it is almost always about creating awareness of compassion towards Self and the lack thereof (this seems to be the same for forgiveness).
Pause for a moment and ask yourself - how compassionate am I with myself?
I see it in my clinic every day, clients can often be overly compassionate with others, to the point of it being detrimental to themselves, their energy levels and wellbeing. What does a 'compassion imbalance' look and feel like?
You may:
- Allow it to affect your personal boundaries including saying yes too often instead of saying no
- Give in to people pleasing tendencies and let them take over
- Overcommit yourself, adding to your stress and busy schedule
- Lose your own energy by giving too much to others, leaving you drained and fatigued
- Forget about yourself and your own needs, putting them on the backburner
- Feel off centre and out of balance as you choose caring for others over self-care
- Be overly critical of yourself
- Have negative thoughts about yourself which can show in how you talk to yourself (negative self-talk)
>>> Does any of this sound familiar?
I'm not saying stop being compassionate towards others. I am trying to shine light on a potential imbalance and encourage a more mindful and balanced approach, especially if the above strongly resonates with you.
Compassion is such an important component when interacting with others and supports harmonious relationships. It brings a lot of benefit to the receiver and to the giver, too. It cultivates patience, nurtures acceptance and tolerance and helps ease potentially strong emotions that can arise otherwise such as anger, bitterness or resentment. However, self-compassion is equally important, for the same reasons and many more.
How can you be kinder and more compassionate towards yourself?- What can you do to cultivate self-compassion every day?
Mantras - Simple yet powerful.
To increase awareness and rewire out thought processes and programs, consider working with the mantra I am compassionate with myself.
Find more information about the power of mantras and how to work with them in the resources section below. Or, try mantra meditation which was THE type of meditation that finally enabled me to get into a consistent daily practice. Learn more about it and how it worked for me in the linked article available below.
I feature mantras in my Socials on a regular basis - so they can serve as a prompt to pause and align you to a positive state of being. Join me on Instagram or Facebook.
Awakening Compassion – Sanskrit Mantra.
If you are into Sanskrit mantras, chanting and mantra meditation, here is the Tara Mantra which davidji used in his meditation. It honours the Goddess of Compassion, Green Tara (green connects to the heart chakra).
Om Tare Tuttare Ture Soha.
davidji describes the meaning as follows:
- Om - represents Tara’s sacred, enlightened body and the oneness that exists
- Tare - liberating from all suffering
- Tuttare - liberating from the eight (spiritual) fears (ignorance, pride, anger, jealousy, wrong thinking, greed, desire and attachment, and doubt)
- Ture - liberating us from the separation
- Soha - may the mantra take root in me. “Make it so!”
With inspiration & compassion,
Lexi
Kinesiology is a wonderful way to shed light on (often unconscious) attitudes, beliefs or thought patterns that may get in our way and block us from becoming the best version of ourselves. If you need support to gain more clarity and create a tailored support strategy - please call me for a chat or book online.
Sources.
- Email newsletter; The Source by davidji: Compassion rests within the heart, released 18 October 2024
Other resources from the Complete Connection library.
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